About***ERICA*** Expertise A breakup can be one of the most painful experiences in life. Whether you are the dumper or the dumpee ~ it hurts. It requires a lot of personal reflection and change. It's never easy. I will tell you that I am extremely blunt and honest in my answers. I WILL NOT answer any questions asked by anyone under the age of 18. If you are looking for someone to sugarcoat the truth ~ please ask someone else. Also, I am only giving you my expert advice ~ I am not a fortune teller ~ I cannot predict the future and my main focal point is to help you get through a very difficult time because I have been there. XOXO
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Expert in the How to Attract that Man of Your Dreams
Engaged numerous times ~ grew from a self destructive person to a healthy woman.
Hope to have helped many people go through this extremely difficult time.
Firm believer in the book/movie: HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU and SHE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU ~ it is that simple
Question Hey,
I'm 19 and recently my boyfriend of 8 months broke up with me. It was my first ever relationship, but he'd had many girlfriends before.
What i dont understand is how he did it.
He waited until i was supposed to stay at his house, which is very far away from where i live. He then started drinking alcohol, and then broke up with me. He knew i had no way of getting home so i had no choice but to stay at his house regardless, and he proceeded to try and make me have sex with him. Numerous times during the night i'd wake up to find him groping me or even trying to have sex with me.
I dont understand why he'd do this. We'd never had a problem with our sex life, so why wait till after we've broken up to try and get that out of me?
And now, he wont let me know where i stand. He said it's hard to stay friends with an ex-girlfriend, but then said he doesnt want to lose contact, and then proceeded to ignore me. He told me he still loves me but last i heard he was going to a bar with some girl.
Its almost like he wants me to wait around for him while he goes off with other girls, so he knows i'll be there when he's bored of sleeping around or something.
I wish i could move on but it feels like he wont let me. I dont know what to do...
Answer Dear Kay,
Time to take control of this situation.... Stop calling him, stop talking to him, stop asking him any questions, and get on with your life. What a jerk!!! Even if he calls you ~ don't take his calls because his behavior is unacceptable... YOU need to start feeling better about yourself and realize you deserve better. If you take his calls or take him back then you are telling him (without even saying it) that what he did was ok and it isn't. You deserve better.... Are you willing to share your man with others or at his convenience???? Maintain your self worth and let him go...... Good Luck
