Expert: ***ERICA*** - 11/15/2009

Question
Dear Erica

I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and things have been great! We practically live together....he's my best friend. We have even spoken about marriage etc.

We currently live in London, England but he has to move to Miami on Friday!! It pretty much means we are going to have to break up!! I really don't think i will be able to cope!! Everything reminds me of him! And i love him so much. All i do is cry, knowing that this week will be the last week I'm with him.

What should i do to ease the pain! I know its ridiculous, but i really don't think i will be able to cope without him

Many thanks

Steph

Answer
Dear Steph,
Is there any way you can make plans to join him in the US or for him to return to London??  Otherwise, a relationship to sustain that distance is extremely difficult.  Enjoy all of your time you have left with him and try to discuss a plan with him if possible.  Change is hard, Breakups are hard especially if you both get along, and Starting Over is extremely difficult.  If you have no choice but to move on ~ it is going to take some time.... Baby steps, but I am wondering why the 2 of you aren't trying to stay together and come up with a plan.