Expert: ***ERICA*** - 11/29/2009

Question
Hello Erica, and thank you for your time. :]
My name is Izzy and im 18.
My delima is, i dated my ex boyfriend Isaac for two years and a few months and broke things off six months ago because he was going through personal (emotional and housing) issues and it was a long distance relationship. I felt that it wasnt right for me to be with him anymore because he was on prozac and it altered who he really was. He is also older than i am which plays another factor in the mess. My question is, should i really bring up old wounds and try and get back together with him? I turned eighteen a while back and now have the option of moving to the city where he lives (because im going there for art school anyways). I was wandering if i should try and rehatch things... or let things be. I just recently realized that he's the one person who really understands me, and we had exchanged promise rings and everything. It was perfect when i was with him and we supported each other like no one else had or would. But a while after the breakup he stated "you knew it wouldnt work out, didnt you?" Refering to the age issue. But i honestly would be willing to go through it. I just dont know how to tell him im still really in love with him... because we've both appeared to seal things off. But when i told him i was going to move to Oregon, he said he was surprised and said "i dont want to hurt your feelings or anything, i just dont know how to take that." The only reason i would contemplate bringing it up, is because i know i'll never feel that same way with anyone in my life again. And i cant let him slip away... when he's all that could ever make me happy. And to my knowledge i made him just as happy, and he hasnt dated anyone since.


Any help would clear my mind some. Thank you SO much for your time and i apologize for the lengthy typing.

xoxo
Izzy  

Answer
Dear Izzy,
After you give this some serious consideration as to whether or not you really want to be with this man again..... the best way to tell him is to just tell him.  I understand that it is scary because we set ourselves up to being vulnerable and potential rejection, but otherwise you are never going to know and it is better to have tried and failed then to never have tried at all.  Once you open that door ~ allow him to think about everything and for him to make the next move.  That is all you can do..... Write down what you are going to say to him (try to keep it short and to the point since the male attention span is short :)   Then, just lay it on the line and wait to see what happens.... Good Luck