How to Breakup/Deal With Break Ups/Ignore or be straight

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Expert: ***ERICA*** - 11/9/2009


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I am trying to get over someone.  We both really liked each other.  But in the end, it didn't work out.  Emotionally, he has moved on.  But I haven't.  We are usually not in contact as much.  But I did see him at a work related event. I realized how much I still like him.  But I have to stop.  He suggested we go out for a beer or coffee to catch up.  I said sure... Not to be rude.  He will probably email me cause he is okay being friends.  But I can't be friends.  Do I ignore him or just be straight with him.  I would prefer to ignore him.  Being straight with him would mean dredging up the past.  How do I deal with this without being rude?

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Sudha,

Very easily ~ don't respond at all.  If he wants to be more than friends he will stop short of nothing to be with you ~ block him from your email and don't respond... that way you are being true to yourself and the situation and starting to move on....

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A breakup can be one of the most painful experiences in life. Whether you are the dumper or the dumpee ~ it hurts. It requires a lot of personal reflection and change. It's never easy. I will tell you that I am extremely blunt and honest in my answers. I WILL NOT answer any questions asked by anyone under the age of 18. If you are looking for someone to sugarcoat the truth ~ please ask someone else. Also, I am only giving you my expert advice ~ I am not a fortune teller ~ I cannot predict the future and my main focal point is to help you get through a very difficult time because I have been there. XOXO

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BBA Expert in the How to Attract that Man of Your Dreams Engaged numerous times ~ grew from a self destructive person to a healthy woman. Hope to have helped many people go through this extremely difficult time. Firm believer in the book/movie: HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU and SHE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU ~ it is that simple

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