Expert: ***ERICA*** - 11/18/2009

Question
Well I've been dating this guy for 3 months now and as time passes things seem to be falling apart.I seem to be doing all the effort to keep this relationship together and he doesn't move a finger.Sometimes I think that it would be better if I breakup with him but other times I have hope that things are going to get better.He tells me he loves me but he doesn't show it,he tells me his not used to showing his feelings for another person,but at times I wish he would show a little love now and then.I really love him alot and that's why i can't let go of him.Sometimes i wonder if he feels the same way for me.This couple of days I've been feeling confused I have one guy that's been telling me how he feels about me and he invites me to eat,to the movies,to hang out and I'm afraid that with time I'm going to start feeling something for him, because his really sweet with me,he shows me how much he loves me,we have fun together,something that my boyfriend doesn't do with me.So at this point I'm really confused.
Hope you have time to read my question and i hope you can give me some advise. Thank You.

Answer
Dear Zoey,
Well, first you have to decide if you want to be with your boyfriend or this new guy.  If you really like the new guy then you need to break up with your boyfriend.  It's also disrespectful to your current boyfriend by going places with a guy who is obviously interested in you.  I get what you are saying about how your current boyfriend is acting ~ stop trying then.  Don't put in any more effort towards the relationship.  Let him do it and if he doesnt' ~ the breakup will happen on its own, but atleast you know you did nothing wrong.  Also, by hanging out with this other guy you are confusing your own head with emotions.  I would stop hanging out with the new guy until you figure out what you are doing with the old one.  Good Luck