Expert: ***ERICA*** - 12/3/2009

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QUESTION: Firstly we(Me & Farhana)were best friends though we loved each other.but we didn't tell others.it was the time when we were 14-15.we were afraid if 1 tell other and other said No...2-3 years passed in these way.but some problems be occured between our families and we were detached and she became quite angry to me as i didn't say anything about our self to them.in the mean time 3rd person tried 2 support her and she falen in love wid him.as he was quite desperate.but their mentality is totaly different.4 years passed and she finally understand that she really wants me and I am perfect her her,she said to me.because we had a friendship in these time.her mind wants me but in the mean time social responsibility makes her confused.oh..i forgot to tell that we are not in same relegion but they are.I also want her and needed her badly ........I cant see her bad face really..we had some physical relationship and finally we told each other that we are in love.....what should she do or what i should do...please


ANSWER: Dear Uzzal,
Since religion plays a huge part in your culture.... Farhana is going to have to make a decision as to what she is willing to do and stick by it.  If she wants to be with you then she will do whatever it takes to be with you.  Otherwise, she will stay in this other relationship to try and do the right thing that society places upon her.  Allow her to figure out what she really wants, but don't waste a lot of your time waiting for her to make a decision.  Good Luck

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QUESTION: Thanks dear.But Life is one time.And I know that no can ever love her as I do......So y not for the best????We tried to migrate in Australia and if it be done then what we want could be happened,what you think????really we love each other.and our friends are quite jealous about our relationship.if we do that is dis will be a bad deciession...........

Answer
If both of you want to be together and migrate to Australia then by all means do it..... I can't say whether or not it is a bad decision because it depends on what both of you want.  If moving to be together is going to make both of you happy then that should come first.  If she backs out then you will know that she isn't serious.  Whatever you decide you will be nervous, but you have to try because life is short and we do only get one chance at it.... Good Luck