Expert: ***ERICA*** - 11/18/2009

Question
hello first of all. my boyfriend and i have been going out for a month and a half. he is a bit indifferent. sometimes he doesn't call me for days and doesn't make any clear explanation. actually i want him. but i want him to understand that if he doesn't call me, i get sad and i can't cope with it. i decided to confront him. tomorrrow i'm breaking up with him. i'll do it in a very friendly way, i'll wish him good and thank him for everything. i'll be cool with it. but i want him to call me and try to get me back. i want him to be sorry for losing me. what do you think i should do? thanks for your time

Answer
Dear Nesibe,
Bad move on your part.  Instead of focusing so much on what he is doing and whether or not he is calling you ~ focus in on your life.  Keep yourself busy.  Playing these games does not make them want us more.  If they want to call they do and if you are tired of feeling sad then you will break up with him because you don't want a reaction, but you would rather move on with your life.  He can't be responsible for your happiness.  You have to be responsible for your happiness.  From your email you are doing this to make him react a certain way and he may for a little bit, but things will go back to the way they are.  That I promise.... Good Luck