Expert: ***ERICA*** - 12/31/2009

Question
I met a total stranger 15 yrs. Younger. We onlysaw each other once.email relationship lasted 3 months. She has kids and financial problems. I already have someone in mylife.she felt it was best that we end our relatonship. We both had very strong feelings for each other,even at the end.the reasons she cut off may be obvious.she new I could not commit and she did not want to push. She new I didn't want it to end. I have never even kissed this girl. It's been weeks since we last spoke. Will I ever here from her again. I miss her. How do I move on.

Answer
Dear Tom,
Ummmmm... you are in a relationship so this is very unfair to both women.  Concentrate on your current relationship if that is the one you want to be in.  What the other woman did was the best thing that she could do for herself.  We don't want men who aren't available.  We want someone who can be there with us most of the time.  You were having an emotional affair and I highly suggest that you do some soul searching and figure out if the woman that you are with is the one you want to be with ~ if not... you owe it to her to leave.... so, that she can find someone who is completely devoted to her... Good Luck