Expert: ***ERICA*** - 12/14/2009

Question
My ex broke up with me in August this year. We tried to stay friends but he could never put the past behind him so just over a month ago we had a huge argument and I deleted him from my life. In this argument he claimed he hadnt cared about me since febuary which upset me greatly. Since this argument however I have felt alot happier and able to move on with my life.

Today december 14th is my birthday and in the early hours of this morning i received a teaxt from him saying 'happy birthday, hope ur okay.'

This has just made me upset and angry. I am not ready to make contct of any kind with him and after the things he has said I'm confused as to why he would contact me at all. As for 'hope ur okay' why say that if he doesnt care.

Confused and frustrated. Please halp.  

Answer
Dear Jess,
We have no understanding as to why he sent the text message, but you are obviously doing better without him in your life.  Therefore, I would highly suggest NOT sending him a text back or having any communication with him because that will just open up a door that is better off closed.... You state that you feel happier and have been able to move on with your life ~ so... why stop that from happening... Breakups happen because they are just that... broken.... Keep up the FABULOUS work creating your own life and have NO CONTACT..... Good Luck.... Happy Birthday!!!