Expert: ***ERICA*** - 12/20/2009

Question
Hi,

My boy friend is 36 years old, I've known him for 6 months now, over all he is a nice guy but it really frustrates me that he would disappear suddenly for 2-3 days.. would not even inform his family that he will be gone.I talked to his family too and they say that he always does like this and they are used to of it.

I have noticed that he would normally be gone on Thursday and skip work Friday, skipping fork to me shows a sense of irresponsibility. I asked him several times that is he seeing someone else he said no and that he loves me very much. When i asked him where he goes he says that he hangouts with his friends.

I am so scared and i don't know how to deal this situation... should i continue the relationship with him or not. Why would he do like this?

Please help and advice me.


Answer
Dear Ashley,
Absolutely unacceptable..... A 36 year old man missing work is irresponsible... I would lay it on the line... Either he is in this relationship or he isn't.... Noone who is in a relationship just "disappears" for 2-3 days... that is ridiculous...Becareful of what you say to his family as well because blood is thicker than water.  The point is you are feeling "icky" about this relationship and his behavior.... Don't accept unacceptable behavior because when you do they lose respect for us and when they lose respect for us it's over.... Good Luck