Expert: ***ERICA*** - 12/22/2009

Question
QUESTION: My ex and i currently broke up. but he is in the army and isnt home. so i never got the chance to see him anyway. but i still have all of his stuff that he couldnt take with him. i want to move on with my life. but i cant get rid of it until he gets home. he still has a few things of mine also. what should i do?

ANSWER: Dear Kat,
If there is a family member or mutual friend that you trust, I would suggest asking that person if you could leave the stuff there (closer to the time that he is suppose to come home.)  I would definitely box everything up so you have no reminders and if you see him when he does get home it may give you a lot of mixed emotions.  Therefore, if you are certain that you don't want to be with him ~ rely on a mutual friend or family member to help you get through this.... Good Luck...

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QUESTION: also.. he still calls me. i do want to be with him more than anything. and he called me the other night and said i still love you dont give up on me. its messing with me head. and its confusin me even more. i want to wait for him to be ready to be with me.

ANSWER: Dear Kat,
I'm a little confused because I don't know who initiated the breakup and what exactly happened... So... if you could send me some more information ~ that may help me to try and direct you in a better way.... Thanks

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QUESTION: it was a mutual kind of thing. but i want to get back together. and he doesnt think he is ready to be with me.. and he tells me to not give up on him and he still loves me and all this other stuff.

Answer
Dear Kat,
If he is not ready to be with you then please stop confusing yourself... and take the proper steps to not have any contact with him.... Don't take his calls, texts, etc..... Get rid of his stuff at a mutual location...... you deserve to be with someone who KNOWS that they want to be with you...... Good Luck