Expert: ***ERICA*** - 12/28/2009

Question
I have loved a man since I was younger. He never told me his feelings. I gave up and found someone else and I do love this person. We've been together for nine months now. The other man finally told me his feelings and we want to be together.I love him more than anything. My boyfriend now would lose his mind if I dumped him and its really hard because he's really emotional. What's the best way to leave him? Please remember he's extremely fragile.

Answer
Dear Stacy,
You say that you love the guy you are with now, but you also love the other man??? Ok... how about you take some time for yourself away from both of them and figure out what it is that you want.  If you want to be out of your current relationship you need to do it by being honest and firm.  Don't give him any false hope ~ period.... because he is going to need closure to move on with his life.  Whether he is fragile or not... he will find a support group to help him pick up the pieces.  I wouldn't jump into another relationship though.... I would take some time for yourself and figure out what it is that you really want.... Then, and only then can you make a wise decision.... the grass isn't always greener on the other side.... Good Luck