Expert: ***ERICA*** - 12/8/2009

Question
I moved to Ohio 3 years ago from California to go to school grow up and get my life together. I was doing really well and met this guy who i thought was a good man. made me feel amazing and said and did all the right things... i got pregnant and he lead me to believe that everything was going to be fine i found out i was pregnant 2 months after my 21st birthday. Soon after I found ut i was pregnant i caught him cheating not only with one girl but with his other childs mother who had just had a child a month after my birthday a month before i got pregnant with another one of his children. he somehow got away with this living with me and now that i am pregnant she and him are a family and he lies to me and says we will be a family he lie about it all the time i am a psych major and i have diagnosed him with anti social personality disorder on top of all this im 10 weeks pregnant keeping the child and he is going to jail for something he did years back for over a year and a half ...which also i had no clue about.. i took the initiative to move back to california where my entire family is for support and to have this baby he goes to jail in 3 days and he expects me to be here for him when he gets out he is still lying about his other family and it hurts bad being so far away and knowing he has 2 other kids with this women who feels the need to contact me anyway she can and rub the most innapropriate things in my face but he still calls me and says baby i love you and she claims he talks shit about me...i love him and im confused because i am holding his child and i just dont know what to do

Answer
Dear Bianca,
Right now you have a decision to make for yourself.  You can continue to have contact with this LOSER and live many years of misery because he already has two children and goes between you and their mother.  OR.. you can make a decision that you want a better life for yourself filled with less heartache and drama and let the LOSER go.  You can always file for child support and he can file for visitation if he would like, but he is a LOSER.  He isn't going to give you any emotional or financial support so why keep yourself in this situation to only drive yourself NUTS???? You deserve better than that and you need to make sure that you are in a good place for your child.  You can diagnose him all you want, but the bottom line is.... he doesn't care about anyone other than himself.  He is not going to be there for you, your life will be miserable, your life will be full of drama, he has another family, he is going to jail, etc.   DO BETTER for yourself.... YOU DESERVE IT.... Good Luck