Expert: Dana Q - 2/10/2009

Question
My bf and I broke up 6 weeks ago..its been tough as we do work together. At first it was a 'timeout' to work out our issues, then last week he said he just doesn't see us working out so I decided to move on..
so yesterday at work I was in a better mood, now that I got my closure, and my ex noticed cause he came up to tell me he noticed I'm in a good mood. Then he told me he thinks about me more than I could know, and that he misses me and this break up really sucks. And yet no mention of him wanting to get back together. That was a setback for me. I didn't tell him I missed him or anything back I just listened and changed the subject.
But it was a setback for me. I don't understand why he'd come up and tell me all that for what reason?
How should I deal with him now at work? I'm trying to move on but I don't need these little setbacks..thanks

Answer
Hi Chloe,

Thanks for writing to me.  He may just be looking for you to stroke his ego and say you miss him too, or he may have decided that he was wrong to break up with you.  At any rate, he isn't willing to actually ask you to get back together, so I think you are doing the right thing by keeping your distance from him.  The next time he comes to you and says something that complicates things, tell him that you have gotten to a place where you can accept the break-up and would rather not talk about it anymore.  This should take care of the problem.

Good Luck,

Dana Q