Expert: Julie - 3/31/2009

Question
my ex just recently sent me a message via facebook, I have not added her or seen her in 2 years and there has been no contact...

Her message just said "hello glad to see your doing ok"
I noticed that her profile said she was in a relationship and I have no feeling for her as she caused me hurt and pain.  why all of a sudden 2 years on at 23.35pm at night do i get this message???
she is 12 years older than me making her 45....and has a son and daughter both teenagers..
Do I block her on facebook or just ignore her?  she cant see my profile and info but can send messages...what if she sends me abuse for not replying.....Im confused

Answer
I'm sure its not a big deal..she's probably just seeing how your doing. And nothing more. I have done that with exes and other people I haven't talked to in a long time as well and I don't take offense if they don't reply.
If you really don't feel like talking to her, then just ignore the message. If she replies back, be honest and tell her you aren't really into being friends.
She can't really report you for abuse since you did nothing wrong, she would have to show the messages you wrote back if indeed you were abusive, as proof.
If she is mature, and understanding, she will leave you alone and drop it. If not, then I'd block her. That is your right. But don't jump to conclusions just yet.

Good luck!

Julie