Expert: Julie - 3/23/2009

Question
I just got home from Florida with my boyfriend, we were dating for 7 months, while we were in Florida, we were fighting over the little things... and at other times we were so close- and it felt like everything was right... mentioning I'm his first girlfriend, i felt like i was being very distanced from him so every thing that he did, that was stupid i would let it go , i mean their little things right ?
on the two day drive home - he didn't even let me rest my head on his shoulder.. as i got out of the car, i was saying good bye to him and his parents, his brother and his girlfriend ill see you soon , or see you later... he walked in my house and didn't even say hello to my sister, i had to get him to say something to her, he gave me a half ass kiss and a hug and left... me not knowing this would be the last time things would be the same... he really didn't wanna break up with me over msn, he wanted to call me but i told him no ... with me being his first girl friend, every thing we did was new, from kissing to holding hands... at first or relationship was amazing... we would walk around every where holding hands, showing everyone we were a couple but as time grew on, things changed and i started to see that he was becoming not as affectionate as he was in the beginning... i have a great relationship with his parents, and his brother ... he told me when we broke up, you deserve someone better then me, i don't know how to treat a girl & when i talk to his mom everyone in their house is sick and devastated as to why this would happen.. as to am i. she said he is a mess, that i need to give him time to make him miss me..
i just need some advice on what to do, i'm an emotional roller coaster right now and i need some help ...
if you can help ... it would be greatly appreciated

Answer
He sounds really confused. I'd say since he did the breaking up, the best thing for you to do is give him space to sort out his feelings. If you call or try getting him to come back, you will just end up pushing him away, trust me, I've seen this happen way too many times.
His mom is right, you need to give him time..I know how hard it is but its the only thing you can do. Once his feelings are sorted out he'll decide what he really wants and if he wants to get back together, he will find you and let you know.

Good luck

Julie