Expert: Julie - 3/9/2009

Question
Hello Julie,

I have a problem that I’m hopping you could help me a little with. My most recent girlfriend of almost 2 years and I just recently broke up about 3 or 4 months ago. Since then, we have stayed really good friends, and still talk all the time. My problem is…I still haven’t gotten over her at all. I know I still have deep feelings for her, and still love her to pieces…and I fell that somewhere in her, she feels a little bit the same way. I really want to get her to give me another chance. I have briefly talked to her about getting back together, but when I did I almost felt like I was starting to scare her off, and upset her. She was telling me that she just wants to be alone right now. Of course, I respect that, but I still want to try for a second change. My problem is I don’t know what to do from here. I don’t want to push the subject, and end up not having her as a friend in the end, because that would be crushing. I also don’t want to scare her away, and put her in an uncomfortable situation. Any idea on what I can do from here? Maybe how to approach the situation? Or maybe ways I can get her to give me that second change, without really having to talk about the situation in depth. I know it’s hard to give advice on this because everyone is different, but any advise what so ever would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance


Steve  

Answer
Honestly I wouldn't bring that subject up to her again..it will just end up making her uncomfortable and it will push her away. If she wanted to give you another chance she would let you know on her own. You can't make someone give you another chance, alls you can do is keep being her friend and wait and see what happens. She sounds like she really isn't ready for getting back together at this point so its better to just leave it alone. She'll let you know if she has a change of heart.

Good luck, Julie