Expert: Julie - 3/18/2009

Question
QUESTION: well i sent flowers.  my friend said she wasn't home, and left them on her doorstep.  that was 9 am .. she works afternoons so i thought she would have saw them by now.

no response at all.  did i push it too far with 2nd flowers?

ANSWER: Hmm well maybe she's just busy and might get back to you later, but if you don't hear anything I'd just leave things alone and wait for her to contact you first because its a possiblity that it was too much for her..its hard to say right now.
But in the meantime let her make the next move..

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QUESTION: that is good.  i am just so heartbroken right now.  i really hoped she would call or something.  last year we really had a special day together.  thats two responses i have sent her that got no response.  in our first 2 emails, i told her i would wait til she was ready to talk.  wouldn't she tell me if she was done or is she trying to let me down soft?

ANSWER: She probably just wants some space so I'd leave her alone right now. If she was done she'd probably have told you but she probably just wants some time to herself and to think right now. So you  need to step back now and give her that time. Otherwise I can guarantee the only thing you'll do is push her away completely and you definitly don't want to be doing that.

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QUESTION: i wrote on the card i would call her next week maybe we coud have dinner..  so you think i should not call?

Answer
I wouldn't call. If she hasn't thanked you yet for the flowers or anything I wouldn't. By asking her out for dinner might seem a bit pushy to her so I'd lay off a bit. Its up to you though, thats my personal opinion though. You can try to call since you did say you'd call but i'm a bit iffy on that since she hasn't responded to you yet regarding the flowers.