Expert: Julie - 4/10/2009

Question
I've Been Dating the mother of my child since I was 14 we dated for five years and in the fifth year we had a daughter together. After the baby things changed I had done a lot of flirting back in the  day at like 15 16 but I explained to her I wanted to put my family first and if I was going to spend anytime out there it shouldn't be with my brothers but with them I poured my heart out to her and I laid everything on the line and it wasn't weeks after that she told me she wanted to live her life which completely shook my world five years she's all I ever knew. Finally we broke up and seriously cut it off two weeks ago but before then it got really ugly and crazi. She told me she only wanted to deal with me on terms of my child iam completely a mess I love her so much and I never wanted a broken family. I figure if I give her her space she would call WRONG. She doesn't call she doesn't text me and when ever I say something to her about us she blows it off. Her mom starrted all this junk and now she doesn't give me any play at all she goes to clubs gets her hair done more often and everything she treats me like dirt its been a couple of weeks I get strong when iam away but when she brings the baby iam torn again what do I do iam so sick

Answer
That is tough but it sounds like she's now enjoying the single life after being in a long term relationship for so long during her young years.
Unfortunatly theres nothing you can do to bring her closer to her, just give her the space that you have been giving her.
If theres any way you can find someone else to pick up the baby so you don't have to see her it would probably make it so much easier for you, like a parent or close friend? Cause the more you stay away from her, then it will make everything so much easier at least until you get a lot stronger.

Good luck!!

Julie