Expert: Julie - 4/8/2009

Question
Ok, so my problem is that i have been with this girl for the past 3 months or so and it was great i really liked her , i might even say that i loved her. but there was a little problem lol  she had a boyfriend and she is a immigrant from Cuba that came to Miami like 6 months ago, she is my front door neighbor,  she was the one that came up to me first and started talking to me. Also she was the first girl i have been with in bed. soo the thing that happened that hurt me was that she told me a week ago that we cant be together no more , we can only be friends for now, because the situation she is in. she cant leave her current boyfriend at this time because they have been thru alot and his family is helping her family in cuba so she doesnt want to cause problems , and she doesn't live in her own house she is staying over her aunts house and her mom told her that she couldn't bring no other boys to the house. she told me that she loves me and still has feeling for me, but she cant be with me at this time. she doesnt want to promise anything like say i will be with you in a year because she is not sure if she is going to able to and she doesnt want to hurt me again. so she said that if you truely loved somebody and had feeling for them that they will still be there later on. we didnt finish on bad terms, it was for the better but still it hurts because i loved her.  

Answer
Well then your gonna have to respect what she's saying so that she can get the issues on her side resolved. I think thats for the best then. If your okay with it, then you can still remain friends but don't put any pressure on her for more.

good luck!!

Julie