Expert: Julie - 4/1/2009

Question
I have bin with this girl for about 3 years and its bin pretty up and down. the thing is that i left her because i just felt like she didn't love me for me, and wasn't sure about what she wanted. after we broke up, she left me a text message stating that she have missed me and it sucked that we didn't work. i didn't text back because i don't want to go through the same things anymore and i felt like that saying if you let something go and it comes back then maybe it was meant to be. well the next day she left a text around PM just asking me what i was doing. i didn't text back and she didn't either. the next day again around eleven o'clock she text me again but asked if i was awake. all this time i didn't text back. what i want is for her to realize if she really wanted to be with me so i felt if i didn't respond back right away then she can really think about thing and find out what she wants. she text me 3 day in a row only those three time, the next day nothing at all and today nothing so far. my question to you is. what is she doing, should i expect more and if so should i call her back or is it time for me to move on, and if so how do i do that because im hurting bad man

Answer
Its hard to say forsure why she's texting. Maybe she wants to see if things can be worked out. Maybe she just wants to be friends. Its up to you if you want to find out what she wants or if you want to move on. Maybe just text her back and ask her if theres anything specific she wants.
If she says no just wants to see how your doing, then you know she's just wanting to be friends. In that case its better to move on because its too hard to be friends with someone you still care about but can't be with, and then ignore her texts. But its up to you..if you don't really care about what she wants then I'd leave it.
Also consider if she is not wanting to work things out, it might hurt if you talk to her again and she says she just wants to be friends and is checking in. So those are some things to consider.

Good luck

Julie