Expert: Julie - 5/3/2009

Question
I have a boyfriend for 2 years. After 1 year of relationship with him, i found out that he have relation with other girl same time with me. I told him that he need to choose between me or the other girl. And he said that he choose me. He said he will go away from the girl. But its been 1 year since we talked about that, and still he is with that other girl. He tried many times to break-up with him, but they're still not parting ways. This time I confronted him again, and he said that the girl is blackmailing her if he will break-up with her. He said just to wait for 2 more months because the girl will go back to Philippines and will never come back here in Dubai. Please help me what should I do. He said that he loves me and if he wants me to stay, but same time he don't want me to get hurt. I don't know what to do.I'm getting tired of waiting and fighting for our relation alone.I've waited for 1 year and still holding on and hoping that there will be miracle that will happen. Should I give-up with him, or wait for another months?

Answer
I would honestly give up on him. If he really wanted to be with you he'd do whatever he can to be with you..not let some girl 'blackmail' him..it sounds like excuses to me.
Don't put your life on hold any longer, he probably knows that he can take his time and do whatever he wants because you are in the wings waiting for him..so why should he do anything about the situation??
Your just wasting your time with him. What if you wait another couple of months for him and he still decides he doesn't want to be with you? Then what? Are you gonna wait another few months? Another year?
If you don't wait and he really wants you, he'll find you and come back in the meantime trust me.

Good luck

Julie