Expert: Julie - 5/26/2009

Question
Hello Julie,

I need a friend and support at the moment. My live in bf over a year break up. We had good and bad in our relationship,we broke up many times before and always managed to get back together. I guess,we're two absolutely different people.

The bad story is,
I don't have many friends,I don't have family to rely on and I end up on the street. I have a job,but I've been spending $ on us,home stuff,entarnaiment,groceries and so on. Don't have any savings. I'll be spending some time at the local shelter until I can afford to save up for 1st and last month rent for a room..let alone my own place. I'm lost and lonely,I don't know how to start my life from scratch..where to start,what to do..it's very depressing.
This relationship is over for good and I'm sad,but I don't know if I'm sad because I lost him or because its over.


Any help would be appreciated!

Sincerely,
Daria

Answer
Of course I won't judge you! From the sounds of it you are doing what you can to start your life over and I'm proud of you! So what if you have to live in a shelter til you get back on your feet, at least you are not giving up on yourself and I commend you for that!

Yes it is very depressing and  I bet overwhelming but you have to start somewhere and it cant get worse from here, only better. So just do what you can to save up for a place and eventually things will pick up..it might not happen right away but it will happen. I know a lady who went through the same thing and now she has a good husband and a very nice home..it took a while to achieve this but she did it..and she also started off at a shelter.

I am sure your sad because you lost your ex, a break up of any kind usually is sad for most people. But I'm sure it ended for a reason and your better off.
Just for now concentrate on getting your life in order and don't worry too much about friends or loneliness..I mean, during my break ups Ive had friends but still felt really lonely because i'd miss an ex or have no one in my life..it happens to all of us but you just deal with it the best way you can, its not forever..it just feels like it for now.

good luck

Julie