Expert: Julie - 5/28/2009

Question
QUESTION: I broke up with my ex. Its been two months now and I have had lots of time to think. I now want him back how do I or can I gok about telling him that I want to try again.
I am afraid that He might turn me down but I think thats its worth a try. The I know that I will have to move on.


ANSWER: I would just call him up and ask if he's interested in going for coffee or something, or just ask whats been going on in his life and if he's interested in giving things another shot.
See what he says, if he's not interested he will let you know, and then its time to move on.

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QUESTION: I did talk to my ex and I told him that I realized that I ruined the relationship. It was my first one and I am 31. Can you beleive that one. Anyway I realized that I wasnt so nice to him and that I was sorry. My insecurities got in the way and when anything went wrong I blame him for it. I didnt bother to ask him to start over. I told him I was sorry and that I am in love with him and miss him. I will never forget him and he will always have a place in my heart cause he was my first true Love. I told him that I have learned alot and I am trying to fix what I do wrong in relationships. He was happy for me. He said that he wants to figure out his life and get things on track. Then maybe we can be together and try again, but he said that he also had to change things about him. He told me that he misses me and is still in love with me but needs to work on him right now. I just have to really try to move on. Do you think I did the right thing?

Answer
You did exactly the right thing!!
but you are right, its time to move on because you can't sit around waiting for him to work on his issues.
In the meantime continue working on your issues as well..you can never learn too much!
And if its meant to be then in the future you two may even try again but if not, then you'll find someone else but at least you'll have learned from this relationship and not repeat the same mistakes in the next one.

Good luck!! Julie