Expert: Michael Freeman - 6/16/2009

Question
Hi michael, I came 2 u b/c ur a man & I need a man opinion. its been a 1yr & 16days sense my ex & I departed. we live 2gether 4 2 1/2 yrs. been knowin him 4 8yrs but it wuz always off & on. I wuz about 2 marry him he wuz da one & still is the one. the only problem in dis sisuation wuz I wuz being unfaithful & it got me NOWHERE but alone. I've given him sum time alone like 6mon 2 his self I hav called him & express me self 2 him & I no he felt my pain but he tld me if he can just trust me he will take me bac. den what makes matters worst he move n da apartment complex right across the street! so I can't help but look & c his car r I often c him while im walkin 2 my car. What am I 2 do ? I f*** up badd I miss him love him & all of dis over my childish ways I've learned so how do I get hi back r @ least talkin 2 me ? ya think he has moved on ?

Answer
It's good that you're feeling regret over what you've done, but it's his right to choose not to be with you. It takes courage and self-respect to leave someone who cheats, so you should probably acknowledge his decision and tell him that you're here for him if he changes his mind.  I can't tell you if he'll ever come back to you or learn to trust you again.  After 6 months, it is very likely that he's moved on.

It sounds like you've learned a lot from this, and I'm sure if you're a faithful partner in the future, you'll find the happiness you seek.  Good luck!

Michael