AboutJulie Expertise I can answer questions about break ups, and how to move on..I've been through a few of them myself and have learned what to do and what not to do in order to heal, move on, or try to get someone back. No guarantees as each individual is different but I can do my best to help!!
Experience I am a good listener and have helped friends get through break ups, I also have gone through a few myself and know how hard it is..if you just need to vent or need advice, feel free to ask
Question I have been with my boyfriend for 13 years. I have been trying to break up with him for about 3 years. We live together and through out the years everything that was mine in the place has systematically been replaced with his stuff or things we have purchased together. I have a 15 year old daughter to care for and I am also the only income in the household he can not keep a job and has not held down a job for more then a year at a time. When I try to get him to leave he gets crazy, mad and says he is not going anywhere because he is on the lease and if he does he is taking everything. He can take everything I am willing to sit on the floor for awhile if it means I can get rid of him. But, he won't leave. How do I get him to leave without alot of arguing? I just want my life back. I do not want to support him any longer.
Answer You just need to do it. i was in a similar situation as well, I just changed the locks and had to even call the cops when he started losing his temper trying to get back in. Then the next step was a restraining order because he didn't give up. Not saying you may need to do this but be prepared. This situation is not healthy especially not for your daughter. He knows that when he gets crazy, that you will give in so he keeps doing that.
Unless you take this drastic action, he will never leave..or since he's on the lease and if he can't be taken off, then its best you just leave and try to get your name off the lease if at all possible..let him try to pay rent for the place himself then.
Good luck, I know this is a difficult situation but you really gotta put your foot down or this will never change.
