AboutJulie Expertise I can answer questions about break ups, and how to move on..I've been through a few of them myself and have learned what to do and what not to do in order to heal, move on, or try to get someone back. No guarantees as each individual is different but I can do my best to help!!
Experience I am a good listener and have helped friends get through break ups, I also have gone through a few myself and know how hard it is..if you just need to vent or need advice, feel free to ask
Question I been dating this guy for just over 3yrs we was best mates before... he was attracted to me I wasn't attracted to him... after him chasing me for sometime my g/f told me to give him a chance I decided too... we had an open relationship where we was to see anyone we liked... our sex life was great he ended up having arguments with me about seeing other people so I decided we should stop cause I thought he wanted to get serious plus he told me he wanted to get serious… we started to see more of each other sex was getting more better I started to have more feelings for him, I could tell he was too… we ended up going out more spending loads of time together even my g/f thought we was inseparable…. Then there was time were we split for months and it was the first time I realized I was devastated and I was crying all the time which I don’t usually do over a guy I realized I was in love with him… I was worried getting a bit jealous thinking about what if he is out getting up to things with other girls…. We ended up getting back together after 3 months…. Things weren’t the same I went over to his I seen txt messages of girls saying how she had a good night I discussed it with him and he said we was on a break which I tend to agree…. We argued so much he thought I was becoming a bit of a control freak but I wasn’t turning into one I just didn’t trust him since we spilt up…. We argued about petty little things then recently he has been occupied i haven't seen me for some time he says he has exams and assignments but I catch him on the internet all the time…. He doesn’t ring me ask he used to ring me everyday… I gave him space so I decided I should go out with my girls because I needed to get out for a night…. He rings screwing at me saying you out y the fuck for don’t say anything when I’m out with the lads which I don’t usually complain about…. He expects me to be in home all the time… he kept ringing me that night we was alright after that he didn’t ring for 5 days when it was Thursday he rang me asking me what I was doing the weekend to come see him I told him he could of rang me before to arrange it and how I was already going out. Friday he rang I was out I told him I would ring him back i'm out he got vexed so I hanged up on him kept ringing I didn’t answer he sent me fucked up voicemail telling me he is deleting my number and to go fuck myself I can do what I want to do…. After that tried to ring him my g/f told him I was out with her he don’t believe me…. Its been weeks now he hasn't even chatted to me when I ring he just listens he don’t speak so I ended up deleting his number so I don’t ring him… he don’t talk to me on msn he blanks me… I can’t sleep at nights I can’t stop thinking about him..... I’m trying to get over him but don’t know if that’s the best thing for me whether i should keep trying or leave it as it is ... please help me out sorry about the long as essay I need someone to talk to thanks xx
Answer This doesn't sound like the healthiest relationship..and its clear that right now he doesn't want a relationship. I would stop trying, alls you will do is push him further away. You need to let it go and leave him alone, and move on..as hard as it is.
You've done all that you can and he's not responding or wanting to even try to make this work so I wouldn't pursue him any longer at all.
