About Michael Freeman Expertise How to break-up
How to break-up with your girlfriend
How to break-up with your boyfriend
How to deal with a break-up
How to break-up with compassion and kindness
How to leave a codependent relationship
How to deal with a needy partner
How to deal with a demanding partner
How to deal with emotional and psychological abuse
Experience You might call me a "break-up artist."
I've studied psychology and relationships for over 10 years. I have experience counseling men through difficult relationships, and I'm exceptionally knowledgable about how to approach issues of separation and breaking up.
In other words, I help people deal with unhappy relationships.
I have written an ebook on leaving unhealthy relationships titled "A Way Out: A Men's Guide to Leaving Unhealthy Relationships, available on Amazon.com and at: www.LeavingHer.com
Education/Credentials B.A. in the Liberal Arts
M.A. in the social sciences
Question I need help! My children's father (boy 22months old & girl 4 months old), have been having problems for the past to years. He has been unfaithful so many times I have lost track. He has been disrespectful and verbally abusive. I know it might sound silly but I do love him, at last the him that he use to be. I have invested so much in trying to make the relationship work and at this point I feel like a complete failure. He left our home two weeks ago, our son was ill and he did not even call to check on him. I know I deserve better but I am left feeling angry. I am left at home with two babies and I am struggling not to loose my temper with my toddler who is a mirror image of his dad. He told me he resent me for having the second child and told his mom he resents the baby too. I am feeling extremly depressed and have no one but my toddler to talk to.
Answer Sandy,
Thank you for your question. I realize that you have intense feelings for this man, but by the sound of it, you need to leave as soon as possible. It will not serve the children to have a father around if that man isn't devoted to them.
Yes, you have invested your time, and as a result you have your children and deep insight into yourself. But please don't think that you have to live this way your whole life. It sounds like he's had many chances, and now it's time for you to separate.
Your kids deserve a happy mother who engages in healthy relationships. If you continue this way -- with a man who treats you badly -- it will negatively affect your kids and their ability to have healthy relationships.
There are resources to help women leave. If you have access to a counselor, I would strongly encourage you to seek someone -- he or she can help you out of this situation.
I don't mean to promote my own agenda, but I wrote a guide for women feeling stuck in an unhealthy relationship -- see my profile for more info.
Best of luck, and please don't hesitate to write back.
