About Michael Freeman Expertise How to break-up
How to break-up with your girlfriend
How to break-up with your boyfriend
How to deal with a break-up
How to break-up with compassion and kindness
How to leave a codependent relationship
How to deal with a needy partner
How to deal with a demanding partner
How to deal with emotional and psychological abuse
Experience You might call me a "break-up artist."
I've studied psychology and relationships for over 10 years. I have experience counseling men through difficult relationships, and I'm exceptionally knowledgable about how to approach issues of separation and breaking up.
In other words, I help people deal with unhappy relationships.
I have written an ebook on leaving unhealthy relationships titled "A Way Out: A Men's Guide to Leaving Unhealthy Relationships, available on Amazon.com and at: www.LeavingHer.com
Education/Credentials B.A. in the Liberal Arts
M.A. in the social sciences
Question "Hi,
My ex and I were together for about 8 years, four strong years and 4 off and on. We then had a child and then split. I find it really hard for me to get over him completely. My child told me about his female friend that has been around. I asked him about her and he said that he doesn't see her that much because she's just a friend. When I dropped my baby off to a family event recently, she was right there. He didnt even introduce me to her. This was my first time seeing another woman around the family filling my space. I kept my cool and smiled and left..I feel kinda hurt, happy that I finaly saw it, and confused. I just want to move on but its hard because we have a child together. Since I saw them together, I feel like I hate him a little but I'm not going to show it. Now, I really dont want to talk to him at all or see him even if its for our child but I know that I have to. Oh, we are both in our early 30s.
Thank you in advance for your time!
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Answer Hi Anewme,
You don't really have a question in there, but I assume you just want general advice regarding this situation.
It's understandable that you feel upset. However, you realize that he has a right to see other people, just as you have a right to date other men. It may sound rude that he didn't introduce you to the lady, but he probably felt very uncomfortable, and maybe he wanted to hide the fact that he was seeing someone so as not to hurt your feelings.
You have two priorities: Your child and yourself. It's not your fault for having these feelings of resentment towards your ex, but it's your responsibility to put your child first. Focus on your child's needs, and don't keep your child from him because of your feelings about the lady. Take comfort in your friends and family, and when you're ready, feel free to seek some companionship of your own. Even if you feel a little new to dating, it's quite easy to jump back in -- especially with online dating, where you can check the waters without any commitment.
It can be difficult to discover that an ex has found a possible romantic interest, but those feelings will fade, especially as you find yourself meeting new and interesting people.
