Expert: Julie - 6/22/2009

Question
Hi,
My ex and I were together for about 8 years, four strong years and 4 off and on. We then had a child and then split. I find it really hard for me to get over him completely. My child told me about his female friend that has been around. I asked him about her and he said that he doesn't see her that much because she's just a friend. When I dropped my baby off to a family event recently, she was right there. He didnt even introduce me to her. This was my first time seeing another woman around the family filling my space. I kept my cool and smiled and left..I feel kinda hurt, happy that I finaly saw it, and confused. I just want to move on but its hard because we have a child together. Since I saw them together, I feel like I hate him a little but I'm not going to show it. Now, I really dont want to talk to him at all or see him even if its for our child but I know that I have to.

Thank you in advance for your time!

Answer
That is a difficult situation of course. And very painful since you still have to see him for the sake of your child.
Unfortunatly this scenario is quite common..one person moves on and the other still isn't over them.

It hurts but at least now you know so you can deal with it..try to not get too personal with him at all when you do see him, and don't ask questions, don't even show you care about his new girlfriend.
Its unfortunate but people do move on, and not at the same time as the other so it hurts when it happens.

Just try to have as little contact as possible and you will get over it eventually..itll just take some time.