AboutJulie Expertise I can answer questions about break ups, and how to move on..I've been through a few of them myself and have learned what to do and what not to do in order to heal, move on, or try to get someone back. No guarantees as each individual is different but I can do my best to help!!
Experience I am a good listener and have helped friends get through break ups, I also have gone through a few myself and know how hard it is..if you just need to vent or need advice, feel free to ask
I am 20 years old and I have had only one boyfriend to date. We started dating at the end of high school for almost two-and-a-half years. We were each other's first relationship and first love, and we shared our first kiss, first date, etc. and we gave each other our virginity. Both of our families liked us a lot. We were best friends, there were never any issues of communication or trust, and it was a very good relationship.
But I went to university in a different country, and even though I came home every two months for the holidays, the distance still affected us and we broke up last summer (at the end of our second year). It was his idea, but I agreed to it because we could both concentrate on our studies for our final year of school, and we ended on good terms. We agreed that as the sole reason for the break up was the distance, that we would meet when I finished university the next year, and discuss where our feelings are for each other.
It has now been a year and I have finished school and come home permanently. We kept in touch throughout the last year, about once or twice a month. We met up as friends, but he told me he didn't want to get back together, saying that he doesn't think we are meant to be together.
As he was my only boyfriend, I know I have no other reference point as to what relationships are like, and I honestly cannot tell whether I wanted to get back with him because of the familiarity of the relationship or because I think he is the one for me. In the past year, I had truly gotten to the point that I am OK if we don't get back together, but I had still hoped that we would. I am finding it a little harder than I expected to let go of him; I truly believed that it wasn't the end of our relationship and that we still had some more time to share.
We are still good friends and on good terms, and we will still be hanging out. We have no regrets and we are both grateful that we had such a good relationship as our first relationship. I still think of him every day, sometimes more and sometimes less.
Please give me some advice as to what I can do, and if you think that there is any hope for us to get back together in the future.
Thank you for your help and your time.
Answer Well it sounds like your ex has his mind made up, maybe time helped him realize you both weren't meant for each other. Theres nothing wrong with that even though its hard to hear.
Maybe you both grew apart during this time, which is common with people who date in high school or shortly after..
Of course its going to be hard to let go, thats normal..he was your first serious boyfriend and things ended on good terms. You never know what the future holds and if you can handle being friends then I suggest you do so. In the meantime it really is time that helps let someone go..just don't hold onto hope, it keeps you stuck..
live your life with no hope of reconciliation and if it happens, then thats great! If it doesn't, then at least you won't be disappointed yet again.
