Expert: Julie - 6/9/2009

Question
hi julie,

my gf and i broke up last week and now i found out yesterday  that she has a
new bf. is this possible? i mean of course it's possible, but can she just be
doing this to cope/get over it? i can't see someone seriously dating someone
a few days after they break up with their 14 month bf.

we are both 22 and just finished college and this was our longest relationship.

if you were a girl and in this situation she is in how would you look at it? if
you broke up with a bf of over a year do you think you could date a guy a few
days later? seems pretty fast to get over it. and if not would it just be a
coping/rebound thing?

ps. i broke up with her, but was under the impression it was very mutual.

thanks!

Answer
Well everyone does this for different reasons but either she knew this guy all along (not saying she was cheating)but maybe she knew him as a friend and once you two broke up, she started seeing him, maybe he had already expressed interest in her. Or well, this happened to me a long time ago, my bf of two years and I broke up and within a week I met someone else i really liked and went for it.
Those can be rare situations though.
could be that she's most likely rebounding to take her mind and pain off the break up but rarely does this last. Rebounds rarely work out, and if she doesn't deal with the break up now, she will most likely have to deal with it eventually, you can only temporarily put a bandaid on something for so long.

Julie