Expert: Julie - 6/1/2009

Question
Hi my names is jose, Iīm 26 years old and Iīm from venezuela. My girlfriend vanessa is 21 years old and we have been together for 3 years and half. Well, she broke up with me about 3 weeks ago, she said that I was not the same, that she needded some space to think and to be alone; however we went out every day after that, and everything seem to be going perfect, but about 2 weeks ago, my girlfriend went to my email account and found a couple of emails a moth old from my ex, that lives en miami. I have not speak with her in 4 years, and those emails said stuff like I miss her, that I liked her, stuff that you say to an old girlfriend, but you girlfriend canīt never read. Well my girlfriend was super mad at me, she told me that we were through, that she does love me anymore, that she canīt trust me, etc. I really love my girlfriend and I donīt want to lose her, what can I do to win her back. Help me

Answer
Thats a tough one because you broke trust..it might be innocent but to her it might not be. You need to give her a bit of space so she can get over her anger, but then just let her know it was innocent and you didn't mean it at all..
she may or may not believe you, after all..everyones different when it comes to this type of stuff. But alls you can do is apologise and try to convince her it meant nothing.

good luck

Julie