Expert: Julie - 6/10/2009

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QUESTION: Okay well there's this guy that wanted to get to know me and I said okay , I never thought I would be this into him. Then he jst stopped talking to me and next thing I knew he had a girlfriend. This broke my heart and I cried my eyes out. Now they broke up and me and him are friends but I'm still so into him and I hate it.I hate the fact that we're jst friends but he doesn't seem like he wants more than that. And he only talks to me when he wants to and sometimes he ignores me. So I think he's jst playing with me. I tend to not give him to much attention but sometimes its too hard. Then sometimes he texts me too. What should I do? I wanna get over him for good.

ANSWER: The only way to get over this guy is to completely stop talking to him and answering his texts and ignoring him. The only reason people stay stuck in their grief and unable to move on from someone is because they keep in contact with their ex but if you truly want to get over him this is the only way.

good luck

Julie

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QUESTION: But its so hard..he talks to me everyday and I see him everyday too. I mean its so hard to not keep contact with him. Should I not pay much attention to him? Or how should I act towards him? I want him to knoe we can never go out or anything. How do I make him think that? Maybe that way he'll stop playing around with me. Because he knows I like him and he acts so stuck up sometimes.

ANSWER: In this case just act nonchalant and very uninterested..if he's smart enough he will catch on. No flirting, nothing..just talk to him like he's any other friend. He'll get bored of playing around with you this way, especially when he sees its not getting to you at all.

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QUESTION: Yeah that's what I try to do but its so hard. Is it true that if you play hard to get then guys will try harder?

Answer
In some cases yes..if he likes you at all. If he doesn't then he won't try at all.
I understand its hard I've been there, sometimes it takes some time for you to finally get sick of a situation before you decide to just say screw it and move on. It took me half a year once with an ex to finally say enoughs enough!! and then didn't talk to him ever again.
So if you want you can try that, but it might backfire. Because if he's truly not interested then nothing you do will work. But it is true, people always want what they can't have. So don't make it easy for him.