AboutJulie Expertise I can answer questions about break ups, and how to move on..I've been through a few of them myself and have learned what to do and what not to do in order to heal, move on, or try to get someone back. No guarantees as each individual is different but I can do my best to help!!
Experience I am a good listener and have helped friends get through break ups, I also have gone through a few myself and know how hard it is..if you just need to vent or need advice, feel free to ask
Question My bf of almost 10 yrs has me so fed up & confused. He recently told me that I was not marriage material during a very heated arguement. He has never said anything like this to me before and here I am thinking it was about that time we tied the knott. He doesn't seem to care about how I feel anymore and sees my tears as weakness so I try my best not cry when he says and does hurtful things. I know this relationship is unhealthy but I can't seem to leave I love him so much. We have a 5 yr old son & that makes it even harder for me to walk away but he doesn't respect me he acts as if I iritate him just by breathing. Pls help me ! I don't know how to cope with all this
Answer It does sound like he has a lot of resentment built up towards you. Not saying he doesn't love you, but sometimes resentment and anger overpower the feeling of love.
It is unhealthy but unless you two go talk to someone, it probably won't resolve on its own. Sounds like he doesn't really want to work on it, especially if anything you do irritates him.
Of course its hard to leave, but maybe even try to take a break for awhile so he can work on his issues towards you. By constantly being around someone you don't have the chance for any of those bad feelings to dissolve. Then try to see if he wants to work on things or if its better to split up. Of course this is difficult, you share a child, but this is NOT good for the child to be involved in, to see his parents fighting and not be very loving towards each other.
Sometimes you need to do the hardest things to resolve issues, because I can almost guarantee that this won't get better on its own or with how things have been going so far.
