AboutJulie Expertise I can answer questions about break ups, and how to move on..I've been through a few of them myself and have learned what to do and what not to do in order to heal, move on, or try to get someone back. No guarantees as each individual is different but I can do my best to help!!
Experience I am a good listener and have helped friends get through break ups, I also have gone through a few myself and know how hard it is..if you just need to vent or need advice, feel free to ask
Question QUESTION: Hi Julie, Thanks a lot for replying to my questions. My ex is totally ignore me today, i didn't reach out to him either, but i feel so hurt, ashamed and damaged inside. After our last intimidated time he may look down on me now? otherwise he won't act like that. Julie, What can i do now to bring back my self esteem and dignity? i feel really down right now. Thank you very much for your time. (this is my follow up question of join ex face book).
ANSWER: The only thing you can do now is just completely ignore him. Now he knows how you feel and you don't need to let him know anymore. Just ignore him and do the no contact, thats all. You will then slowly get back your dignity and self esteem, but not if you keep going after him and then getting rejected all the time.
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QUESTION: Hi Julie, my ex just contact the following day, asking how was i and how was my day, i just totally ignored him, the next day he kept mesg me asking me if i didn't want to see him again, I asked him as if that he really wanted otherwise he wouldn't acted cold and distance with me afterward, He told me that was not really that he wanted he would like to see me that why he came to the work place to met me, the following day he sent me another mesg stated that he was really happy when we could spend time together and he really missed me afterward but he explain that this mesg he wanted to send after our catching up day but accidentally it still in the draft box of his phone, he said sorry to make me feel upset, I told him i accepted his apology, He said thank you to me and then kept quiet for another 10 days then mesg me again this time the content of mesg just like talked with an old friend, I just replied him as an friend as well, four day ago I noticed he worked in the same area with me but didn't even let me knew, i felt so hurt, but never contacted him, then yesterday he sent me another mesg, again just like talked to old friend, today I initiated contact with him to ask him how things goes, he also reply to me very nice but just like an old friend, I'm so confusing Julie. At the beginning I thought he wanted to work things out between us for that reason he tried to apologized to me, that why i talked to him again but now i feel like he doesn't want to work things out. What does he actually want? Does he still have any feeling for me? Does we still have anychance of rekindle or I just should move on and try to forget about him, should i ask him out for dinner or should i just ignore him. Could you please give me some advice, I feel like he just takes me go around the circle. Thank you very much for your help. You know you have given me the great support to go through my hard time.
Answer Your welcome, I am glad to help.
It does sound like he has some feelings for you but it doesn't sound like he wants to work things out at least not now. Don't ask him for dinner, don't even try to get him back because the bottom line is, he KNOWS how you feel. He knows you want him back,..so if he did want to rekindle things, he would do everything he can to get you back..not message you, then disappear for a few days. It sounds like he wants to keep in touch maybe even as a friend because he still has feelings. I know in the past I kept in touch with exes because I still cared about them but I didn't want them back..but it was nice to talk to them, and in case one day I changed my mind and wanted them back.
Keep moving on..if he DOES care enough and he sees you moving on he will get worried and do something about it. People always want what they can't have.
Trust me on this..VERY IMPORTANT..if you ask him out or question him or try to get him to come back, you will not succeed. It will push him away.
If you do have a chance it will only happen if you keep ignoring him but don't ignore him to the point where it will push him away, just be friendly like you would be with any other friend. And leave it at that.
