AboutJulie Expertise I can answer questions about break ups, and how to move on..I've been through a few of them myself and have learned what to do and what not to do in order to heal, move on, or try to get someone back. No guarantees as each individual is different but I can do my best to help!!
Experience I am a good listener and have helped friends get through break ups, I also have gone through a few myself and know how hard it is..if you just need to vent or need advice, feel free to ask
I have a 2 queries, Hope you would reply back advising me on both.
Ever Since me and my ex broke up, I never went out again, just once in 2 months (without friends - all alone) due to me being scared of getting hurt. I havent seen my friends for a year now but the girls do keep in contact with me and I stopped talkin to the guys. My first bf 3 years back, used to physically torture me, he used to burn me with ciggerates, held a knife against my neck, beat me like i was a guy, step on me, he even stabbed my cousin and he beat me up so bad and caused a misscarraige when I was pregnant with his baby girls (Twins). After that my 2nd Bf whom we were together after me and my first split up used me for money, had a girl frend when i was his girl friend and did a lot of emotional hurt. He abused me verbally which made me go into depression. I need your help in advising me on how to over come this fear, of meeting people again, especially my frineds who I avoided for a year now.
Next week, after so long, I would be going to the club for a little dancing with a couple of friends but I am scared to even go to the club, am just doing so because my girls are forcing me too and they mentioned they would bring a couple of my old guy friends, who are still their friends. I am 100% sure my ex will be around, at the club amd since I will be with my best friend, I am sure he would come and say hi to my friend but the problem is, I dont know how to react, especially after what he put me through, Every one is telling me not to bother about him because he made me suffer alot and does not even deserve being in the same room as me but what if he comes over and say hi to me as well?, I know he goes to the same club am going to next week because that's the club we used to be at when we were together a year back and I heard he goes there every weekend. How am I supposed to react?
Hope you can advise me the best solution to these 2 queries.
Thanks & Regards,
Mikaila
Answer Wow sounds like you had it rough..
The thing is you probably won't be able to overcome all this on your own, you need to see a counselor who specializes in domestic violence to help you get your life back. I know I did when I left an abuser.
As for the club situation, you need to ignore him if he says hi, maybe just say hi back and then thats it, don't give him any indication that you want to be his friend or anything. Your friends are right, he doesn't deserve your friendship.
