AboutJulie Expertise I can answer questions about break ups, and how to move on..I've been through a few of them myself and have learned what to do and what not to do in order to heal, move on, or try to get someone back. No guarantees as each individual is different but I can do my best to help!!
Experience I am a good listener and have helped friends get through break ups, I also have gone through a few myself and know how hard it is..if you just need to vent or need advice, feel free to ask
Question my ex girlfriend and I broke up 2 weeks or so ago and it has been tough for
me. we ended on "good terms" if that is possible, because we realized we
were both growing apart and didn't get along as much anymore. we were
together for 15 months. our breakup was fairly mutual I think.
however, I think we both thought after some time away and thinking about
our relationship we could get back together. this has been the longest
relationship for both of us and up until the last month or so things were
great.
she has a new guy now, which, I totally understand is reasonable. we aren't
together and she can do whatever she wants.
but (from what I've been told) they starting dating/seeing each other a week
after we broke up. it hurts me that she moved on so fast. maybe she is doing
this to cope and maybe she is still sad. personally, I can't see someone fully
recovered in that short of a time. so I guess I'm being optimistic, but I can't
see it working out with this guy.
i want her back, but this is the problem: I can't figure...do I want her back
because she is with this guy? do I just miss her because we went out on good
terms? or is just normal feelings of a break up? (ive only dated seriously twice
my entire life) I can't figure out my feelings. or will I get over this in due
time? I'm not sitting her crying or really that heartbroken so I am confused.
i am heading out of the country for 1 month in 5 days so obviously getting
back together now is not a good idea. however, we did discuss hanging out
once I got back to see where things went. but with a new guy in the picture
that probably won't happen. we've spoken once since our break up...just
casual conversation and nothing about "us."
im in a tough spot. if I tell her I want to be with her, most likely that won't
work because she is dating someone now. so what should I do? wait until I
get back (when at that time I might be completely over her anyway) and see if
she wants to get together?
thanks so much for the help.
Answer Your probably going through a mixture of feelings. People want what they can't have so now that she has someone else you probably feel like you want her back.
What you need to do is exactly what you stated, go out of town for that month and see how your feelings go. By then you will know. If you find yourself missing her more and more and thinking about her all the time then you know your feelings are genuine..so yes the whole distance thing will be a good test.
Just cause she has a new guy doesn't mean it will work out or that she's got strong feelings for him so you never know where its gonna end up anyways.
