Expert: Julie - 6/14/2009

Question
hey julie, okay here it goes im a single 25yr old mom of one. I live wit just me & my son me & his dad isn't 2gether. dats da problem I want 2 b I've always wanted 2 raise my son n a hm wit mom & dad but da sisuation neva came 2 b. we still hav sex every now & den which I feel like its just messin wit my feelings even more. so one day I just up & called him sayin I want my family back so he didn't say nothin & I wuz like u can say no he wuz like im goin 2 let u no im grown I no how 2 say No. but neva gav me a answer yet. but when we get into it r sumthin doesn't go his way he has a bad temper problem he has put his hands on me not beatin just chockin me & has done it repeatedly even n front our son b/c I get 2 flip @ da mouth so he says. his a great father he brings him 2 school every morning I can't start 2 tell u how great he is but I feel like if he has chock me den what's next ? should I just move on ?  love is blind r do I need 2 open these eyes up ?

Answer
YES love is blind sometimes, sometimes even in the worst of situations when we love someone, it often times clouds our judgement. The thing is you do need to get rid of him..and stop hooking up with him, cause yes this does mess with your feelings.

I had an ex too who used to do what your ex does to you now..and trust me it gets worse..what if he chokes you too hard one day by accident? I knew a girl whose ex she had a baby with, he used to choke her and one day he choked her too hard and she died. Is it worth it to you?

You definitly need to move on, don't put your life at risk for any guy. Trust me you will look back one day and wonder what you ever saw in him, like I did with my ex.

Good luck

Julie