Expert: Julie - 6/12/2009

Question
hello julie
i have just come out of a 2 yr relationship with this guy i am really struggling to cope it all seemed to be going perfectly we were in love when 1 morning last summer my partner decided to stop contacting me i tried everything called text over and over day and night but hardly any response we was on and of the next couple of months whilst he was working out whether he wanted to be with me in this time i actually fell pregnant and go ahead with it and had to terminate as i had no support he totally neglected me during this time i went to the clininc all on my own and i became very ill. anyway he did come back to say he was sorry after 2 months and the fool i am i took him back after that it has been off and on for a full year with him gone awol at new year for 2 weeks also on other important occassions so recently i gave him an ultimatum to give me priorith so he decided to dump me and have had no contact for a month. the thing is i know his family really well and get on really well but they don't know of our relationship he was always scared of getting caught as there was issues involved and alwys said he loved me but wasi this true i miss him like hell pls help me

Answer
Well it doesn't sound like he was very committed to this relationship at all. I understand how much you miss him but unfortunatly not a whole lot you can do about him right now. Hes made his decision.

Alls you can do now is take it day by day..it does get easier trust me. It is hard because you miss him, and you will for some time but the situations out of your control. I am sure he loves you but not enough to try to work this out.

Good luck

Julie