Expert: Julie - 7/14/2009

Question
I was wondering what advise you would have for me on my
situation. I want to get back with my ex girlfriend and she
tells me her biggest fear is little things I did in the past
to her will happen again. She tells her sister that she
wants to get back together with me but doesn't know when.
She claims shes just scared of the past repeating itself. I
have been patient and been waiting for a while now and my
patience has ran out. I told her I just can't do this
anymore and that its best to move on and when and if she
comes around and wants this she knows my number. Everyone
keeps telling me that she will come around she just needs to
see what its like without you in her life and not having
that comfort that your there anymore. I am trying to go out
and move forward with my life its just hard because she is
always on my mind wondering if she will come back to me. I
guess thats the feeling when you love someone. So any advice  
on this situation or suggestions would be great. I plan on
not contacting her only if she contacts me first.

Answer
I am impressed! your doing all the right things. And your right, don't give her any comfort that you may be 'waiting around' for her. She does need time apart from you, and time to miss you, and then she will decide from there what it is she wants. And also, your right, don't contact her at all unless she contacts you first.

Its usually when someone fears losing someone that if they are to come back, then they will. By doing anything else, your not helping the situation at all.

good luck!

Julie