Expert: ***ERICA*** - 8/21/2009

Question
This time last year I became very angry after an incident with a male friend, where I hoped for more than friendship but was turned down. I overcame it when I mert my ex. He made me incredibly happy and I've been fine all year.

He recently dumped me however, and I find I'm becoming increasingly angry at the tiniest thing. And this time I don't have someone to go to. I am also still deeply in love with my ex, and though am coming to terms with losing him, am finding it hard to deal with being so lonely.

We are still good friends however, but its only with him that I can hold my temper. But at any other time I feel constant anger. Help.

Answer
Dear Jess,
Your anger may stem from feelings of rejection.... Give yourself some time with no contact with any of your ex's, but something that you said in your email concerns me.  You don't need someone to run to... you need time to get to know yourself..... Once you do that you will be able to deal with your anger and rejection in a much more positive manner...... It is normal to feel lonely and lonliness does suck, but the only way to overcome that is by finding things we enjoy doing for ourselves... Don't make a man be the answer to your happiness.... Learn to deal with the lonliness and find things that make you happy... friends, family, activities, hobbies, etc... What do you enjoy doing that is time consuming??? The best gift you can give yourself is you!!!! Learn to embrace the lonliness..... otherwise you will go from empty relationship to empty relationship... Trust me... I have done it...