Expert: ***ERICA*** - 8/26/2009

Question
We have been together for six months, it was love at first sight. His birthday is coming up and I don't have anything to get him with, because I don't get paid until the following week of his birthday. But along with that he's jealous and hates when I go out with my frinds, and when I go to college, he thinks I'm going to see other dudes. And if I receive an email on my blackberry, he thinks its some guy texting me. But when I go to show him what it was or who it was, he doesn't want to look. I'm tired of it and I have't given him any reason to think of me like that or to be so secure about me! Is he cheating or hiding something, and was I wrong for breaking up with him over that. Should I have just stayed with him or get back with him and talk things over. And explain to him that I won't have any $ for his birthday and we would have to do something the following week.

Answer
Brittany,
It sounds like an unhealthy situation for you to be in.  Why would you want to stay with him?? People don't change unless they want to change for themselves.  So, if you are expecting him to just magically change one day it's not going to happen.  If you don't like being questioned all of the time and want to concentrate on your own life then just stay away.  You need to ask yourself why you want to talk to him and/or stay with him... that is very important.  As for his birthday ~ it's not about what you spend, but rather just making the person that you care about feel special and that doesn't require money ~ there are many ways to achieve that goal.  This sounds like a very jealous and controlling relationship and probably not the best situation for you to be in.... Good Luck... Warmest Wishes, Erica