Expert: Julie - 8/27/2009

Question
me & my boyfriend of 3 yrs recently broke up about 3 weeks. he broke up with me because he said he's stressed and I add to it. I know he's stressed because of issues with his mom he just had eye surgery & tells me he wants to get his life together & that I should do the same. he's 22 I'm 20. we been talking & hanging out for the past 3 weeks and its been good. I came up with the idea of taking a break for about 3months & he agreed. I just don't know how to go through with it now I feel like ima lose my mind. I saw him yesterday & at first he said talk to you in december then took it back & said talk to you when I talk to you. idk what to do we both love each other. help

Answer
Well it does sound like you guys need a break if things are stressful right now. But you shouldn't put too much of a time limit on it unless you are both thinking about working things out. Taking a break and not hanging out or talking is best if you are to both or one of you deal with issues otherwise the issues may not end up getting resolved. Its VERY hard, that much I know. No one with feelings for an ex has an easy time with no contact..its very hard but necessary. Try to hang in there and try to stick to it as much as you can, the time apart could very well be good for you both!

Julie