Expert: ***ERICA*** - 8/2/2009

Question
I have been with my girlfriend for 4 1/2 years. We have a three year old daughter and I have adopted her 6 year old son. I love those kids very very much and I love her very much. I am having problems with her doing shit on me. Se calls it a problem but not a very bad problem when she is drunk and kisses other guys at the bar when I am not there. I am in a situation where I live with her, her useless brother which sucks us dry and her mom all in the same house. I am to an end and I dont know what to do anymore. I love my kids dearly I dont want them to get hurt any way, but I know something is wrong when I am up at night emotional not knowing what to do with my life anymore, to a point where I just want to leave everyone but I know thats a selfish thing to do especially when its part of my income that keeps my kids living here. Any suggestions?

Answer
Dear Craig,
I absolutely have a suggestion:  LEAVE.  Then, go to court to get visitation rights for your children and if you believe your children aren't being cared for properly you can always go for custody.  There is absolutely no reason why you should have to stay and subject yourself to this type of emotional abuse ~ yes... ~ it is emotional abuse.  She is kissing other men in bars?? AND you are allowing this behavior... WHY??? I don't care if she is drunk... then guess what you don't drink...drinking is not an excuse for bad behavior.  Pack up your stuff ~ let her have one of those other guys support her ~ do something good for yourself ~ use the legal system to see your children and tell this disrespectful cheating woman ~  GOODBYE!!!    Good Luck   "E"