Expert: ***ERICA*** - 8/13/2009

Question
Dear Erica,
I'm in a relationship for 2 years and a half. We are from different countries. Our relationship was long distance for about a year. Our love & passion never faded though, that's why we decided to get back together again, and I put a great effort into moving to his country. He proposed to me and I was as happy as can be. After 2 months he told me that he changed his mind and that he thinks that we shouldn't do it because he doesn't believe in marriage and that he would have done it just for me, to get permanent residence there, but that it's probably not the best reason to get married for.
When my visa ended I returned to my home country, we both cried a lot and he begged me to stay, even if I was to be an illegal there (easy for him to say that).
Anyway, our communication as we were apart started to malfunction. One time I didn't hear from him for 2 days. That's when I got mad and started an argument, because I knew that he was up to smth., dating, trying to have fun...I know him.
Anyway after a month of no contact he wrote a message saying that he misses me a lot. We started messaging back and forth, and I didn't miss the chance of telling him how great I'm doing, how busy I am because of my new career projects and how much fun I'm having. Now he wrote back, saying that he needs to know if we're through, as he still has the same feelings for me.
What should I reply to that? I don't know what to do...I still think that he is the love of my life and I miss him so much. But what future do we have together? We might never meet again...Plus he disappointed me in the worst ways. It's like he realizes that he loves me only when he sees me go. How can I make him see the truth, that we both have smth. great together, smth. that's worth fighting for?

Answer
Dear Yoanna,
Anything short of him asking you to marry you and actually going through with it or moving to your country = NO RELATIONSHIP.  It really is that easy because you have already tried everything else in between ~ If a MAN LOVES YOU they move mountains to be with you ~ PERIOD!!!