Expert: ***ERICA*** - 8/8/2009

Question
I TRULY LOVE THIS GUY BUT THERE WAS A CHANLLENGE IN OUR RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE I WAS GETTING OUT OF ONE AND INTO ANOTHER. SO I KNOW I DIDNT ALWAYS TREAT HIM RIGHT, BUT I LOVE HIM AND NOW HES KINDA FOUND ANOTHER GIRL BUT ME AND HIM ARE NOT JUST FRIENDS AND I WANT WAY MORE THAN HE DOES RIGHT NOW HE DOESNT KNOW WHAT HE WANTS. WHAT I HATE THE MOST IS HE HAS TO HIDE TO SEE ME FROM PEOPLE. I DONT KNOW WHAT I SHOULD DO. DO A TALK TO HIM STILL, OR DO I GIVE UP HOPE OF US EVER GETTING BACK TOGETHER? IS BEING FRIENDS A GOOD IDEA OR EVEN POSSIBLE? I WANT HIM MORE THAN A FRIEND THO! PLEASE HELP!

Answer
Dear Ashley,
Being friends is not a good idea right now if ever... It may not even be important to you in the future, but right now it is.  If he really cared about you ~ you would not be a secret and he would do whatever he had to do to be with you.  Obviously, he is having his cake and eating it to and there is no way that you can feel good about this.  Please stop putting yourself through the pain and move on and definitely don't blame yourself.  What happened ~ happened, but you have made it clear about how you feel.  Let him go.... and truly if he wants to be with you he will let you know.  Not a real stand up guy when he is with someone and seeing you on the sly... Is this what you really want for yourself??? I think if you give yourself some time... you will realize that you don't.... Good Luck