Expert: Julie - 9/21/2009

Question
Hey,

Im 17 (young i know ) and my ex boyfreind moved to Oz about 3 months ago we have been going out before for a year. Everything was fine when he first moved over and we weere still going out (hes 18) but for the past two months we have been arguing. Then last week we decided to break up and we are now on a break. Hes coming back to visit next summer, i was then going to go on a gap year to stay with him for a year. However, he has now told me he doesn't love me, and that he doesn't know how he will feel when he gets back, i understand this though, even i don;t know how i will feel in a year.

So now i'm not sure if i should go to live with him, I'm only 17 nearly 18 and i have the whole of my life to find someone. So i should stay here and go to university. But I don't want to lose him and through away one of my best freinds and ex boyfreinds as i'm still hoping we will get back together one day.

So i am therefore in a bit of a dilema, please give me your advice.

Thank You.

Answer
I can tell you right now that it would be a huge mistake to put your life on hold for him to be with him. Theres still a good chance things won't work out and you'll have put your life on hold for nothing. Ive seen way too many people do this and regret it and I am willing to be you would also.

You can both still stay friends, if your feelings for each other are as deep then you can still have a chance in the future but for now its best you stay where you are and concentrate on your own life, rather than having to start over again in the future.

Julie