Expert: ***ERICA*** - 9/15/2009

Question
Ok here is some info before i ask my question. Me and this girl dated for a year and half. She cheated on me in the beggening but i was talking to other women so we forgave eachother. Also later i had cheated on her which i regreted and apolgized over and over for. But we break up for a few days and i decide because i was tired of being sad i go with a friend to the movies. She finds out about it and get angry saying she doesnt want to be with me anymore and all this stuff. But it meant no harm and she doesnt want to listen. We dont exactley trust eachother. She also smothers alot because she doesnt trust me. but im just trying to figure out is it even worth trying to go after her still? or time to let go? Please and thank you

Answer
Dear Jordan,

It's very simple...and to the point..... NO TRUST = NO CHANCE at a healthy relationship.  She is clingy because she doesn't trust you... both of you have broken the circle of trust... Now can you get that back ~ usually with a lot of work, time, counseling, etc... It's possible.... but, extremely difficult.  It appears to me from your email that neither one of you really values this relationship the way one should to have it work.  Relationships are so hard to begin with ~ throw trust issues into the mix and it is as good as over.  Give it some time.... see how you feel.. see how she feels.... Both of you don't want to live a life of misery so you have to decide to really really work at it or let it go and give each other the chance to be happy.  Good Luck