Expert: Julie - 9/15/2009

Question
i just brooked up with my boo i been going out with him for 1 year i really love him but i need to forget about him.how can i not think about him, and stop calling him all the time making up excuses to talk to him. how can i stop getting jealous when i hear that his out in the street with girls. please help me i don't want to be hurting no more this hurts me so much i really need to know what to do .

Answer
It is very hard when you break up to forget about someone and not be jealous..trust me, everyone goes through that. The first step in feeling a lot better is to STOP calling him no matter what. As you can see already, talking to him will only prolong the pain, and although it might give you a quick fix at the time, you probably still get off the phone feeling upset because, yes, your still broken up and he probably didn't tell you anything you wanted to hear. So really, talking to him is pointless. And I guarantee it will not help in moving on either. You will continue to hurt as much as you are now if you continue.
Then try to ask the people who are telling you they see him with other girls to not tell you if thats possible.

No contact really is the only way to get over someone, even though its the hardest thing to do.

good luck

Julie